When the Past Is Present

In this book, psychotherapist David Richo explores how we replay the past in our present-day relationshipsand how we can free ourselves from this destructive pattern. We all have a tendency to transfer potent feelings, needs, expectations, and beliefs from childhood or from former relationships onto the people in our daily lives, whether they are our intimate partners, friends, or acquaintances. When the Past Is Present helps us to become more aware of the ways we slip into the past so that we can identify our emotional baggage and take steps to unpack it and put it where it belongs. Drawing on decades of experience as a psychotherapist, Richo helps readers to:Understand how the wounds of childhood become exposed in adult relationshipsand why this is a giftIdentify and heal the emotional wounds we carry over from the past so that they won't sabotage present-day relationshipsRecognize how strong attractions and aversions to people in the present can be signals of own own unfinished businessUse mindfulness to stay in the present moment and cultivate authentic intimacy

David Richo, PhD, is a therapist, teacher, and author who leads popular workshops around the country at such venues as the Esalen Institute, New York Open Center, and Spirit Rock Meditation Center. He is the author of several books. He lives in Santa Barbara and San Francisco, California.